There’s a saying out there: “high expectations bring great disappointment”. There’s so much truth in that because if one expects to be hurt or disappointed by the people they love and never expected it from then, we would not be as disappointed when it does happen.
It’s safe to say I had an eye-opener week, I learned that trust is reserved for those who have earned it and continuously prove their loyalty towards you and that always, but always trust your gut-feeling even when your thoughts seem outrageous.
If there is one thing I prioritize in any relationship I step into, it’s loyalty. Loyalty towards each other and loyalty towards the union itself. Sometimes it’s not about what people do to you but rather about if you’d ever trust them after they’ve done whatever to you.
As a person you need to analyse the role you play in people’s lives. Am I a sister, a confidant, a best friend, a trustee or a comforter? Why did this person trust me with this role? Do I deserve to be trusted by this person?
The reason why we disappoint people or why people disappoint us is because, we assign roles of responsibility to people who are not ready to commit to them or who are otherwise not loyal enough towards the union you share to care about whether their actions disappoint you or not.
My OTR LESSON of the week is Do not go around trusting people who have not earned it and let go of those who have earned it but lost it along the way because, life is too short to have any kind of relation with anyone that can not be trusted.
We live to learn and fail in order to gain experience but if anything a red light is a red light and if you’re questioning someone’s loyalty towards you then, it’s time to close that chapter of your life.